Nov 13

How to Honor the Real Thanksgiving Story With Kids

by Meghan Fitzgerald

As our kids have aged, we've stayed curious and wrestled a bit with how to talk to our kids about Thanksgiving. We want our children to learn from and do their part in making sure that all people feel seen, valued and known, helping to make the world a more equitable place for theirs and future generations. Perpetuating the Thanksgiving story we were taught in elementary school has never felt aligned with that mission. 

But, it can be hard to know how and when to start having a truthful Thanksgiving conversation with kids. So first, remember that we don't need to nail this by the time the turkey (or tofurkey) hits the table. This is ongoing and important work to do all year round. To follow are a few ideas and resources that are helping our family to lay a foundation that, we hope, will help our kids respect and respond to the real history in a way that supports a better future.

Build a Foundation of Knowing and Respecting Native Peoples.

Start by teaching children real stories and truths about Native and Indigenous peoples, both from the past and the present. The more our children can be curious and aware about people for their strengths and rich history, the more they will push back on stereotypes and absorb the real history in a way that makes them compelled to act. 

First, get both inspired and get a starting place in this recent blog post written by Tinkergarten Community Manager, Erika McLemore, How (& Why) to Honor the Original Caretakers of the Lands We Explore. The article is full of directions and examples of steps, reminding us how stewardship and care for our planet is a natural extension of outdoor learning, and that includes learning about the Native American original caretakers of the places we play, learn and live.

Or, try one of the following steps to get started:

  • Learn about the Indigenous People(s) who live or lived on the land in your area. Use an app like to find out which people live/lived and which languages are/were spoken on the land on which you live. 
  • Learn more about those People(s). Search for “native people from {city, state or region}” or “indigenous people from {city, state or region}. Then, look for historically accurate accounts of how those people thrived, being aware of the limitations of the perspective of whomever has created them. If you have local historical societies, ask for information about those Native people(s) and encourage them to invest even more in developing resources to help the community understand the People(s) who live and lived where you now live.
  • Read books that help children come to know about Native Peoples and prepare them to push back against stereotypes. For starters, check out this list of 20 beautiful picture books by Native authors about Native protagonists assembled by veteran Tinkergarten Leaders Erika McLemore, who is Creek-Seminole, and Cholena Smith-Boyd of the Shinnecock Indian Nation. As you select more books on your own, consult a reputable resource like this Embrace Race article by Dr. Debbie Reese, a researcher focused on representation of Native Americans in children’s literature. Through her expert advice, my family has learned how to pick books that are about specific tribes or Native peoples, avoiding the kind of generalizations that lead to stereotypes.
  • Incorporate Native history into everyday outdoor play. As you are walking in a forest or along a river in your area, share something you’ve learned about the Native people who live/lived and what makes/made them special as a group or society. 
  • Get Ideas from this inspirational Curriculum Guide shared by Star Yellowfish, Director of Native American Student Services (NASS) for Oklahoma City Public Schools.
  • Continue the learning. Read more from Indigenous Vision about how to build inclusive communities and support Indigenous youth. 

Question the Story Together.

When you feel your kids are ready, work with them to question and point out the mismatches between the accurate history and the often perpetuated Thanksgiving Story. To start:

  • Get to know the full story yourself. PBS Kids offers wonderful resources for parents and educators on how to approach Thanksgiving with authenticity. These resources also help us parents better understand, for ourselves, the story of the people we call Pilgrims, their interaction with Wampanoag people, and the full history of the holiday we’ve come to know as Thanksgiving. 
  • Don't be afraid to share with children that there is more to the story. It’s important to help them understand that the familiar story that has been shared for a long time is over-simplified and, as such, can even be hurtful to whole groups of people as well as the allies of those people. One way you can present the disparity to kids is, although there was a feast between the Pilgrims and the Wampanoag, it happened during a time of terrible cruelty and unthinkable loss to the Wampanoag. 
  • Seek out additional tools for learning. This New York Times article has helped us use both age-appropriate resources and inquiry to start engaging our kids in conversation about Thanksgiving. For example, it has encouraged us to help our kids ask “Who is telling the story and what is their perspective? How is this story different from other accounts and facts that we now know?”

Focus on Gratitude.

While, it's essential that we help our children become more attuned to inequality and injustice, telling the true story of Thanksgiving doesn’t have to undermine our practice of sharing gratitude. You can even kickstart an annual gratitude tradition that’s respectful of Native history. Once you learn about the original caretakers of the land you live on, it becomes easy to express thanks for all they’ve done to preserve its natural beauty as part of Thanksgiving.

Be sure to help kids reflect on what they’re grateful for in their day to day lives, too. For many years, our family has focused our Thanksgiving on expressing thanks for our family, our health, our earth, and whatever else feels authentic to our kids. We engage in rituals like building a Tree of Thanks or turning a pumpkin into a Gratitude Pumpkin to make this even more concrete for them, and fun for kids. This has extended far beyond Thanksgiving for us as well, helping us use simple rituals to develop a gratitude practice as a family and improve our own mental wellbeing in the process.

And, if you want even more ways to make this most unusual Thanksgiving extra sweet, read more here.

Learn more yourself.

You may already observe or be aware of the National Day of Mourning march taken by Indigenous People and their allies in Plymouth, MA since 1970. If you are not aware of it, learn more about it and how it has inspired people to rethink the history and correct the false narrative of the Wompanoag and all native people.  

However you choose to celebrate this holiday, remember that while we cannot change history, we can make our children alert to who is telling and what needs to be told about the story. It’s the only way our kids will learn to do their part to make sure better stories are written in their time.


Meghan Fitzgerald


After 20+ years as an educator, curriculum developer and school leader, I have my dream gig—an entrepreneur/educator/mom who helps families everywhere, including my own, learn outside. Prior to Tinkergarten®, I worked as an Elementary School Principal, a Math/Science Specialist & and a teacher in public and private schools in NY, MA and CA. I earned a BA with majors in English and Developmental Psychology at Amherst College, an MS in Educational Leadership at Bank Street College, and was trained to become a Forest School leader at Bridgwater College, UK. My worldview is formed in response to my environment, culture, family, identity and experiences. What I write in this blog will inevitably betray the blind spots I have as a result—we all have them! Please reach out if there are other perspectives or world views I could consider in anything I write about. I welcome the chance to learn and update any pieces to broaden our shared perspective!

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