by Meghan Fitzgerald
When my oldest was just under two, I was introduced to May baskets by a colleague. I wasn't sure she would get anything out of it, but we made and delivered a few baskets, and she just seemed to love the entire process. After that, we were hooked, and it’s become a tradition. In the last days of every April, we search for a new and easy way to make a hanging basket out of the stuff lying around the house. We also make a list of 5-10 local friends and neighbors who might love or need a joyful surprise. As we are planning and preparing, we ask our girls how they think friends will feel when they see their May baskets. This opportunity to think of the impact of our actions on another person’s feelings is a great way to foster empathy.
Come early in the morning on May Day (May 1st), we fill the baskets with spring flowers and leave one on each friend’s doorstep. We are quite sneaky in our deliveries, careful not to be detected. Although I have no doubt our recipients know who to credit, the girls believe that they have no idea. That is, quite possibly, the best part of the whole endeavor. Not only is there just something marvelous to kids about the chance to sneak, but there is also real value in remaining anonymous. Children have countless opportunities to act for the reward of adult adulation and praise. But, there are not many chances for them to act simply for the satisfaction of knowing that they brought joy to someone else. I love that about random acts of kindness—they get kids hooked on the intrinsic value of kindness, not the extrinsic need for praise.
The 14th Dalai Lama is credited with saying, “When we feel love and kindness toward others, it not only makes others feel loved and cared for, but it helps us also to develop inner happiness and peace.” And, there is great researchto show us that even kids under two feel happiness when they give to others.
In today’s world, I know many of us could use a greater sense of inner happiness and peace. So, cheers to finding ways to pay it forward with our young ones! Here are a few of our easy favorites: